the "bbc" code on profiles is honestly exhausting... can we move past it

im a black guy in a couple, my partner is also black. and i swear every single profile we look at has that acronym somewhere. either in their wishlist or in their dms within 3 messages. and look im not pretending its not a thing some ppl seek out fine. but i am a whole person. i have a job i like food i like music. im not a body part or a stereotype. the worst is when ppl message me and immediately go there before they even say hello. how do other lads of colour in the scene handle this. do u just ignore. call it out. put something in ur profile. genuinely asking because my partner is sick of it too...