the kink night at our local club that scares both of us

once a month the club we go to runs a kink-themed night - light bdsm, demonstrations, more dress up than the usual nights. weve been to the regular nights loads, never once gone to the kink night, partly cos neither of us know what wed actually want to do there, partly cos we're scared we'll look like the most vanilla people in the room. wifes curious about being tied up properly (rope, not the bedroom scarves we've done forever), im curious about watching. but is a public kink night really the place to start? or do you do that stuff in private first