the one vanilla friend who knows but isn't in the lifestyle... my best mate of 20 years knows me and the wife are in the LS, she's known about 6 yrs. shes never wanted to join, shes happily monogamous with her partner, but she's the one person outside the LS i can vent to about LS stuff. is anyone else lucky enough to have a vanilla mate who just GETS it without participating? she gives the best advice because she sees it from outside but doesnt judge. i feel like a unicorn for having her tbh and i worry sumtimes that im burdening her with stuff she shouldnt have to hear...