the slow erosion of communication after years in LS... anyone else feel it

been in the LS w my wife for about 9 years now and theres this thing thats been creeping up on me. when we first started we talked about everything... pre meet, post meet, fantasies, fears, the lot. now? we kinda just... do it. we go to a meet, we have fun, we drive home, we go to bed. maybe a "that was good" the next morning. its not that things are bad but i can feel the connective tissue thinning. like we got so good at LS that we stopped TALKING about LS. and i think thats a slow ticking bomb. anyone else been here? how do you reopen the conversation after years of running on autopilot...