the slow seduction over months fantasy that we cant figure out how to actually do

this is wifes big one... she wants the experience of a slow burn with someone, weeks of flirty messages, a coffee, dinner months later, the buildup of an actual seduction not a quick connect and play. weve been in LS for 3 yrs and almost everything we do is fast - meet, vet, play within a few dates. she misses the courtship. but how do you find someone in the LS who is up for months of slow when most people are explicit about wanting to play within a few meets... does the slow burn experience even exist in LS or do we need to look elsewhere