the swap that somehow healed something old in our marriage this is gonna sound mad but bear with me. years ago me and my wife had a rough patch where she felt invisible to me. we worked through it in therapy but there was always this echo. last month we had a meet where the other husband just... saw her. asked her questions about her painting which i'd kinda stopped doing years ago. i watched her light up in conversation before anything physical even happened. on the drive home i apologised properly for the first time for how id stopped paying attention. she said sometimes you need someone outside to remind you who you have. has anyone else had the lifestyle accidentally repair an old wound...