Three years in and I'm kind of bored. Is that the death of it or a normal phase?

Last month at a Saturday club night, midnight, I caught myself thinking I'd rather be home reading. My wife noticed. She didn't say anything in the moment but on the way home she asked if I was okay. I lied and said yes. The arc, roughly. Discovery in 2022. First parties late 2022, genuinely the most exciting thing that had happened to us in a decade, we'd come home from Park Slope events and talk for days, replay the recordings, plan the next one immediately. 2023 was peak. Year two, regular rotation of about six couples, the depth of those connections was incredible. We thought we'd found our people forever. Year three has been different. Same parties, same people mostly (a few new ones), same general format. I'm not feeling it. My wife isn't burnt out the way I am but she's aware I'm drifting and the awareness itself is creating a second layer of weirdness between us. M39, F37, Brooklyn. I want to know if this is a phase or the start of the end. Did anyone else hit a year-three plateau and push through into something deeper, and what changed for you? Or is the honest answer that for most people the scene has a shelf life of 2-3 years and then it becomes something you used to do? I'd rather hear the honest version even if it's the second one.