totally new couple, is Feeld gentler than Kasidie to start on

so we have been talking about opening up for almost a year now, lots of conversations no actions yet. 31F 33M, no kids, married 4 yrs. we are both kinda introverts and the idea of jumping straight into something like SLS or Kasidie with all the lingo and the "ddf, hwp, soft swap only, etc" coded language feels like learning a new programming language while also being naked. someone we trust said try Feeld first, the vibe is younger and more curious and less established LS people, more like dating app meets ENM curious. but then someone else said Feeld is basically a single guy farm and couples get hammered with low quality messages. ngl i dont know what to believe. we both have iphones, we dont mind paying a small fee, we are not looking to rush into anything, we just want to chat with other curious people maybe meet for drinks once or twice over the next few months. is Feeld actually the gentler ramp or is it just a different version of the same problem