trans-inclusive vs not — couples in the same scene, friction is rising

so this is the big one in our group rn. we've got couples who are firmly trans-inclusive and some who are very much not and they all attend the same parties. so far its been polite avoidance but recently one party had a trans woman attend and a couple made comments and... yeah. how is ur local scene handling this. is it splintering. are organisers picking sides. genuinely interested cos i feel like the next yr or two this will define which clubs survive...