trans woman walking into a cishet club, how do you do the safety calculus

asking as a trans woman, fully transitioned, stealth in most of my daily life... my partner (cis man) and i have been talking about going to an actual brick and mortar club here in dublin for ages and i keep chickening out. the calculus in my head is exhausting... do i disclose in the booking call? do i wait til we're inside? do i wait til a specific play scenario comes up? the dysphoria of being clocked in a locker room setting is one thing but the actual physical safety angle is what gets me, even if it's a 5% risk the math doesnt feel worth it some weeks. how do other trans women in the LS run this calculation, especially in smaller cities where there's only one or two venues...