twitter vs insta vs threads vs bluesky, where does the lifestyle community actually live now

genuine map-of-the-territory question. when we joined the LS about 5 yrs ago twitter was clearly THE platform, by miles. anonymous accounts, real conversations, easy DMs, decent meet logistics. then twitter went weird and ppl started talking about leaving. some went to insta and got more visual, some went to threads briefly and bounced, some went to bluesky, a few went back to tumblr (lol), a lot just retreated to apps. and im genuinely lost as to where the actual community lives now. like the writers and thinkers and long-form people seem to be on substack now. the visual couples are on insta. the day to day chat seems to have gone to private discords and group chats. but is there still anywhere thats functioning as a public commons for the LS the way twitter used to. or has it just fragmented forever and we just live on three platforms and accept it. where do u actually spend ur LS scrolling time these days