vanilla friends keep asking about my "weird dating" how do you handle it right so i'm mostly out to my close mates about being in the lifestyle, solo woman edinburgh, i'm 34. but lately my vanilla friends have decided i'm their entertainment at brunch, asking really personal stuff in front of people i don't know that well, treating my dating life like a netflix series. i don't mind questions in private one to one but the public sport of it is wearing thin. how do you push back without being a buzzkill or going full lecture mode... like i still want them to feel they can ask things i just want it to be a conversation not a panel show...