we used to play once a month and now its like 3x a year, and i feel weirdly guilty about it

is this a thing or am i just being weird. f44 m46, married 19 yrs, in LS since 2014 so about 11 yrs in. for the first 7-8 yrs we played minimum once a month, sometimes more. clubs, regulars, the occasional 3some, lifestyle weekends, the whole rhythm. it was a real cadence in our marriage. the last 2 yrs without any conscious decision we've dropped to maybe 3 times a year. one resort trip, one anniversary thing, one random meet with a long term couple. and the weird part is — we're HAPPIER than we were when we played monthly. less drama. less recovery time. our actual sex life with just us has gotten more intense honestly. we're also more rested, less broke (LS is expensive!!), and we have more time for other stuff. but i feel GUILTY about it. like... guilty in a weird identity way. like we're LS couple posers now. like we're only "technically" in the lifestyle. like ppl in our circle who play 2x a month are the "real" LS couples and we're the ones quietly slipping out the back door without admitting it. when ppl ask "you guys still in" i say "oh yeah for sure" and then realize the last thing we did was 5 months ago and im like... am i lying. is this a normal phase. do other long term LS couples have these natural frequency drops where you're still in but you're barely doing it. or are we actually in the soft exit and i need to just admit it. and why do i feel like i need to perform "still in the lifestyle" to friends in our LS circle when its not their business at all. the social pressure inside the LS scene to keep playing at a certain frequency is real and i don't hear ppl talk abt it