we're 50s, been swinging since the 90s, and the new younger crowd's kink talk makes us feel ancient... is the LS leaving us behind

genuine post not a moan. married couple, im 54 my wife is 51, weve been in the lifestyle since the late 90s. used to be the relatively young end of the parties and clubs we went to. now... obviously not lol. weve seen the LS go through a few cultural shifts but the current one is the strangest for us. at the clubs around london where we go now (we mostly go to the older crowd ones but a few are mixed age), the younger couples — late twenties, early thirties — are doing way more kink than my wife and i ever associated with the LS. light bondage, choking talk, D/s vocabulary, switches, talk of subs and doms and aftercare and all of it. they'll casually drop "we're both switches" the same way we used to say "we're full swap". its a different language honestly. now to be clear we're not anti-kink at all. weve done some light stuff (cuffs, blindfolds, a bit of spanking) over the years. but we've always thought of the LS as primarily about sex with other ppl, with kink as a side ingredient if it came up organically. the new crowd seems to start FROM kink and the swap is almost the secondary thing. we're not sure if were missing the boat or if its just a generational thing thats not for us. when we've tried to chat with the younger crowd about what they want from a meet, the vocabulary and the assumed kink-literacy makes us feel like grandparents at a tech conference lol. so... other older swingers, do you feel this too. is it ok to just stick with our generation and let the kink-heavy crowd do their thing. or should we be picking up some of this stuff to stay current. and is "stay current" even a thing in the LS or are we projecting work-world anxiety onto our hobby