what we wish wed known before our first swap...

looking back at our first proper swap (last february, a couple we met online in leeds) theres so much we'd do differently. we didnt talk about what counted as a "swap" beforehand... like did kissing count, did oral count, was full swap on the table. we just sort of fell into it and woke up the next day with a lot of confused feelings to unpack. anyone else feel like the convo before mattered more than the act itself... what do you wish you'd sorted out before you did it