wife came home from a stag-night meet and shut down for a fortnight

we're hotwife dynamic, shes the one who plays, ive always been comfortable with it. she went to edinburgh for the weekend for a stag-night style thing with a bloke shes seen a few times. came back monday, very quiet. didnt want to be touched. didnt want to talk about it. didnt want me to ask. ive been giving her space for fourteen days now and shes still not back. not crying, not angry, just... gone. i'm terrified to push but im also dying inside. when do you push and when do you wait. shes never been like this after a meet before. shes 41 i'm 44 weve been doing this 5 years