wife initiated us in LS, now husbands found his own bi side...

classic story — wife wanted to open up, husband agreed cos he loved her, year one was all about her exploring, year two she's playing less and he's playing more, year three he's out here at bi-friendly meets in toronto having the time of his life with single men and other husbands. she's not jealous exactly but she's a bit "wait what happened" and im a bit "babe you started this". anyone else had the roles flip this hard, does it settle or do you keep diverging into your own things