wife runs the SLS account vs both of us — which actually works better long term

so a thing weve noticed talking to other couples is that most of them have one designated app person, and its almost always the wife. on the surface it makes sense, the F voice gets more engagement and tone is usually better. but its also a LOT of work for one person and i feel guilty leaving it all on her. on the flip side when i help out and message couples theres always this dance of "is this actually the wife or just the husband again" that other couples have to figure out. we tried a shared system for a month and the energy was inconsistent and we got fewer responses. now wife handles 90% and im starting to feel like a passive partner in our own LS journey. is there a system that actually works where both partners are visible and active without confusing the people you message