wife wants full, im stuck on soft, how do we negotiate without it getting ugly im 44 she's 39, two kids, been swinging soft for about 14 months. she came home from drinks w her girlfriends (one of them is in the lifestyle apparently lol news to me) and now she wants to open up to full. i love that she's into it but ngl im not there. soft works for me, full feels like a different country. how do u even have this convo without one person feeling like theyre holding the other back or being a buzzkill. last time we tried to talk it went sideways and she said "you wanted me to be open and now im open and you're scared"... which fair but also...