Adoption assessment starting next month and we are in the lifestyle, what do we do

Right so we have been on the adoption pathway with Tusla for nearly two years and the home assessment phase is meant to start next month and herself and myself are sitting in the kitchen in Phibsboro at half ten tonight wondering what to do because we are in the lifestyle three years now and our social worker is going to ask about our relationship our lives our friends our weekends our hobbies and we have to decide right now what we say. Bottle of red half done between us and the cat keeps walking across the laptop. The thing is we cannot lie because they actually check social media they call references they verify everything, tá's agam this from a friend who went through it and got asked specifically about a holiday photo. But we also cannot just say we are swingers because that pathway closes the file in some assessors hands even if officially it should not. I know two couples in Cork who paused their lifestyle for two years through assessment and after they were approved they restarted, that is one option. But the assessment lasts twelve to eighteen months and post placement support visits go on for years after. 35 and 37 both teachers in Dublin north side, no biological kids, fertility tried for years, settled on adoption two years back. We have an event booked for May with a couple we have known since 2022 and we have not told them anything yet. Has anyone here actually gone through Tusla or HSE adoption while active. What did you tell them. What did you pause. Did anyone get caught and what happened.