Menopause stripped my libido completely. My husband is patient but Im watching him fade

Used to be twice a week without thinking, now its once a month and I have to brace myself. The last 18 months have been a slow disaster. Hot flushes, dryness, the sleep gone to bits, and the worst — desire that just isnt there anymore. Im Mary, 50, married 24 years, living in Douglas in Cork. Hes lovely about it. Says he loves me, says theres no rush. But Ive noticed the way his eyes linger on women in the supermarket. He doesnt do anything, I trust him entirely. But the guilt is brutal — that I took something from him that he didnt sign up to lose. Tried HRT, one type helped a bit, the second gave me migraines. GP gave me vaginal oestrogen cream and said the rest is partly head and partly time. Going for a counsellor next month. Women whove come out the other side of menopause with a partner — how did you find some version of desire again? Was it physical or mental? And how do you have the honest conversation without one of you ending up feeling guilty?