Wednesday morning clinic, MS diagnosis, plans for the weekend cancelled

Wednesday morning at the Mater. Neurologist confirmed what we had been suspecting for eight months. MS. Relapsing remitting. My wife. She is 39. We have a club night booked for Saturday and a couples dinner Sunday that we had been looking forward to since Christmas. I am writing this on the bus going home, she is at work pretending it is a normal day. We were in shock together for forty minutes then she went to the office and I went to a cafe in Drumcondra and now this bus. The question is not about cancelling Saturday and Sunday, that is obvious. The question is what the lifestyle looks like for us going forward. She has stamina issues already she has been hiding from me, which she told the doctor in front of me. She is going to be on medication that requires monitoring. Symptoms come and go. Some days she will be fine. Some weeks she will not. We have been in the lifestyle five years, married twelve. No kids by choice. She works in pharma I am a quantity surveyor. Our circle is three couples plus events three or four times a year. They do not know yet. We have not decided what we tell them or when. Limerick couple coming for the weekend in three weeks, that has not been cancelled because cancelling would require explaining. Looking for two things. Anyone here whose partner has MS or another relapsing chronic condition, how did you adapt the lifestyle without losing it. And how did you tell your circle. Not asking about the diagnosis itself, plenty of resources for that. Asking about this specific intersection.