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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

that quad where every single person just clicked... does it happen often

we had this meet in dublin a fortnight ago with another couple weve been chatting to online for months and i swear to god... everyone fancied everyone. not in a polite way in a properly mutual way. th

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the bath i take BEFORE a meet, weird??

ok hear me out... i know everyone showers obvs but i take a proper bath with bubbles and oils for like 45 mins before any meet. candles on, glass of wine, the whole vibe. its not just hygiene its like

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

condom in the bowl. who brings it up?

so the rule was condoms with others. fine. then last weekend in this Airbnb in Hackney the other guy goes in without and my wife didn't stop him. i saw. she saw me see. nobody said anything. drove bac

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

texting the other couple next day, how soon is too needy

we had a lovely night with another couple on friday, exchanged numbers obviously. saturday morning i woke up wanting to send a "thanks for last night, had a brilliant time" message. my wife thinks we

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

dental dams in oral on women — does ANYONE actually use them or is it a unicorn safety thing

reading all the safety threads ppl mention dental dams for oral on women but ive been in the LS 3 yrs now and ive literally never seen one IRL. never had a partner offer, never offered one myself, nev

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

hiv scare and the longest 12 weeks of my life... did anyone else lose their mind

i'm about 7 weeks into a 12 week wait after a properly stupid night at a play party in sydney. condom failed, partner i didn't know well, alcohol involved, i won't go into more than that. i got on pep

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

the unexpected mentor who never knew they were one...

theres a bloke in our scene, mid 60s, single, comes to munches alone, sits at the same end of the bar, has a pint of bitter, knows everyone, gossips about nothing. ive watched him for years. he never

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

AFF in 2026 — actual humans or just bots

ok i know AFF has a bad reputation for bots and i was ready to write it off completely but a couple we trust said its actually gotten better lately and they met 2 real couples through it in the last y

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

can u play w someone whose politics u proper despise

genuine q for the community. can u actually shag someone whose worldview u find horrible if the chemistry is undeniable... me and the wife disagree on this hard. she says politics doesnt come in the b

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

single guy events vs general events where do you actually find play

live in cape town, new-ish to the scene. there are mainly two kinds of events near me - "couples and select singles" which i can't get into easily, and the open "any singles welcome" events which are

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

18 months sober and im realising how much of my LS confidence was actually 3 glasses of wine, who else is doing this

tldr getting sober is changing the LS for me and i need to talk to ppl who get it. im 44, hubby 46, married 17 yrs, in the LS 8 yrs, just outside cork. ive been sober 18 months in june. wasnt rock bo

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

We are both 65, started the lifestyle a year ago, do younger couples actually want to play with us

feels strange to be writing this at our age but here we go. me 65, dh 65, we've been married 41 yrs, raised two kids who are both settled, retired about 3 yrs ago and after a slow lockdown era we star

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He cheated 18 months ago. We're thinking of opening the relationship now and I can't tell if it's healing or a mistake.

Our therapist asks me the same question every session. "Are you sure you're not motivated by control? Or by revenge?" I tell her no, every time, and every time I leave her office in Stoke Newington un

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·6d

our ls dinner parties have become Too precise & i think we're losing ppl

right so me n the wife are food ppl, she trained at ballymaloe, im a sommelier, n our ls dinner parties have become a Bit of a thing in the cork scene... 6 ppl, 5 courses, wine pairings, the whole thi

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·7d

type 1 + insulin pump + LS = the actual logistics nobody talks about

so im t1 for 22 yrs, on a pump for 10. me and wife in the LS for 4 yrs. heres what nobody talks about... what do u do w ur pump during play. detach? leave attached? where do u clip it? i keep getting

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CEO of a midsize co, very googleable, dh wants to go LS... the linkedin problem

i'm the CEO of a 200 person company in manchester, fairly public role, journalists ring me for comment occasionally, conference speaker etc. dh has been gently raising the LS for about 18mo now and im

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private school teacher in toronto, LS curious, the cultural mismatch is wild

ok so i teach at one of those very traditional private schools in toronto, you know the type, blazers and latin mottos and parents who summer in muskoka. dh and i are mid 30s and started exploring the

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quick rinse vs full shower between partners same night — whats the actual norm

lol this is gonna sound like such a basic q but its been on my mind. we did a hotel party last sat, 3 couples, 1 single F, played in 2 separate rooms with diff partners over abt 4 hrs. between partner

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Anonymous Questions·Anonymous·7d

my partners andropause and the slow-down... how do other women cope

hes 61, im 56. weve been in the LS 12 yrs and the last 2 hes really slowed. used to be the most reliable man i knew, now its hit and miss. hes seen a dr, T is low-normal, hes on a small dose of replac

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co-parenting after a LS-related split, how do you not pass the chaos to the kids

we've got two kids 9 and 12. their dad and i split a yr ago cuz he developed feelings for someone in our LS group and refused to give her up. fine, whatever, we're past that. what i'm struggling with

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